7 Reasons You’re Not Behind in Life (Read Until #1 for the Most Surprising Truth)
If you’ve ever looked around and thought, “I should be further along by now”, you’re not alone. Whether it’s comparing your career to a colleague’s, your relationship to a friend’s, or your entire life to a stranger’s Instagram feed, the silent weight of falling behind can feel crushing.
But here’s the truth: you are not behind. In fact, you might be right on schedule for a life that will mean more to you than the one you’ve been chasing.
As an evidential psychic medium and tarot reader based in Canada, I hear this worry constantly in readings. And every time, the message is the same, your path is yours alone.
If you’ve been doubting that lately, read through this list until the very end. Point #1 might just change the way you look at your entire life.
7. The Myth of Linear Progress Is Just That, a Myth
We’ve been sold a formula:
School → Career → Partner → House → Kids → Retirement → Peace.
It’s neat, predictable, and easy to measure — which is why it stuck around for generations. But it’s not how most lives unfold. People skip steps, circle back, or abandon the path entirely to build something entirely new.
When you step outside the “approved” timeline, it can feel wrong, but it’s often the first sign you’re actually living on your terms.
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6. Late Bloomers Often Create the Richest Impact
Some of the most inspiring people didn’t “arrive” until much later in life:
- Vera Wang entered the fashion industry at 40.
- Colonel Sanders franchised KFC at 62.
- Martha Stewart released her first cookbook at 41.
- Oprah Winfrey reached national fame in her 30s.
- Toni Morrison published her first novel at 39.
- Alan Rickman landed his breakout acting role in his 40s.
- Stan Lee co-created Spider-Man at 39.
They weren’t late, they were deep in preparation.
Frank Lloyd Wright’s resurgence in his 60s reminds us that creative and professional breakthroughs can come long after we feel ‘off course.’
What Frank Lloyd Wright Tells Us About Late Bloomers
Journalist Rich Karlgaard highlights that many people uncover their talents later in life, challenging the societal rush to early success.”
Late Bloomers: Why Good Things Come to Those Who Wait
5. Progress Isn’t Always Measurable in Numbers or Titles
In readings, I often see clients who think they’ve made no progress because they haven’t hit an external milestone. Yet they’ve grown in ways that can’t be measured on paper:
- Learning to regulate emotions
- Saying no without guilt
- Walking away from chaos without needing closure
- Resting without shame
- Being fully present
True transformation often happens quietly, without an audience.
A heartfelt essay in The New Yorker pushes back against the fear that adulthood is too late, showing how vulnerability and learning can reignite possibility.
Is It Really Too Late to Learn New Skills?
4. Your Nervous System Might Be Doing the Right Thing by Slowing You Down
Sometimes you’re not “stuck”, you’re healing.
Burnout, trauma, or long-term stress can put the nervous system into protection mode. In this space, slowing down isn’t failure; it’s an act of repair.
Just as you wouldn’t sprint on a broken leg, your mind and body need space to restore their strength before leaping forward again.
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3. Redefining Progress Will Change Your Whole Outlook
Real progress can look like:
- Knowing yourself better
- Choosing peace over proving something
- Slowing down to make intentional decisions
- Being honest about what you truly want, not what’s impressive on paper
In tarot, The Hermit teaches us that stepping back isn’t quitting, it’s gaining the perspective you’ll need to take your next step with purpose.
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2. The Middle Ground Decision Protocol
When faced with a major choice, I use two lenses:
The Legacy Lens
Picture yourself far in the future, on your deathbed, looking back. Which choice would make you proudest? Which would you want to be remembered for?
The Childlike Lens
Imagine your younger self looking up at your current life. Which choice would make them light up with excitement? Which would make them think, “That’s exactly what I hoped we’d do someday”?
The middle ground between the two is your sweet spot, it merges your highest wisdom with your purest joy.
And remember: you don’t get to take money or possessions to the grave. What remains is the love you gave, the connections you nurtured, and the lessons you learned.
If you feel stagnant, stop asking “How do I move forward?” and start asking:
- What is this moment here to teach me about love?
- How can I respond in a way that I’d be proud to remember?
- If this chapter ended tomorrow, what would I want to have understood?
We are all here to learn about love. Once you reach the heart of the lesson in front of you, you’ll find yourself standing at the door of a new beginning, one that carries the next life lesson you’re meant to explore.
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Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset
Carol Dweck’s growth mindset reminds us that embracing effort and curiosity, even without guaranteed outcomes, fuels meaningful self-improvement.
Fixed v. Growth Mindset
1. The Most Surprising Truth: You’re Not Behind Because There Is No Finish Line
Here’s what most people never consider: there’s no universal finish line in life. No scoreboard. No official timekeeper announcing who “won” or “lost.”
The moment you stop measuring yourself against a timeline that doesn’t exist, you’re free to live a life that actually belongs to you.
That freedom is the real success, and it’s available right now.
If you’ve ever questioned the limits of tarot, you may be surprised at just how much insight it can offer, and where its power truly lies.
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Closing Thoughts
You are not behind. You are in the middle of becoming. Your story isn’t late, it’s unfolding exactly as it’s meant to.
Not all progress is visible, but all of it counts. The timelines we compare ourselves to don’t know our entire story, and they never will.
If you’re ready to see your path more clearly, tarot and psychic insight can illuminate the choices and lessons in front of you. As one of the most accurate and evidential psychic mediums in Canada, I combine grounded guidance with intuitive depth to help you live a life you’ll be proud to look back on.
If you’re ready to stop questioning your timing and start moving forward with clarity, I invite you to book a private session with me.
Together, we’ll uncover the lessons in your current chapter and illuminate your next steps with grounded, specific insight.
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This article was written by Chris Bennett, Canada’s best tarot reader and internationally acclaimed psychic medium. With decades of experience in tarot reading, psychic medium readings, and intuitive guidance, Chris is known for blending evidential mediumship with practical life insights. His work has helped thousands reframe self-doubt, navigate change, and recognize that life unfolds in its own perfect rhythm. Recognized as a world renowned tarot reader and trusted psychic in Canada, Chris continues to provide accurate tarot reading, spiritual psychic insights, and the best psychic readings available both online and in person.
