Breakups can feel like the unraveling of everything familiar—a jarring disruption to our emotional, mental, and spiritual worlds. It’s easy to feel lost in the aftermath, wondering how to move forward or find closure.
Whether you’re feeling deeply heartbroken, confused, or simply ready to move on, healing begins from within.
This powerful spiritual exercise is designed to help you release the past, find closure, and make space for a new chapter—one grounded in love, both for yourself and for the future you desire.
It’s a road opener, and one of the most difficult exercises I’ve done personally. To learn more about me and my journey, click here!
Step 1: Create a Sacred Space for Healing
To start this healing process, it’s essential to create a sacred, intentional space. Spiritual rituals often begin with setting a mood that signals to your mind and body that something meaningful is about to happen.
Begin by lighting a candle. The soft glow of the flame will serve as a focal point, calming your mind and inviting peaceful energy into your space. Take a moment to pause and breathe deeply, recognizing that this is your dedicated time for self-care and emotional healing. Setting this intentional space can help shift your focus from external distractions to the inner work of healing.
Set a timer on your phone for 30 minutes. This simple act not only creates boundaries around your time but also encourages you to stay fully present during the process. Learn more about creating sacred space for personal growth here.
Step 2: Relax and Ground Yourself
Now that your sacred space is ready, it’s time to relax your body and mind. Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down, and focus on the flickering flame of your candle. This small act of mindfulness will help you center your thoughts.
To release any physical tension, try a full-body relaxation technique. Tense your muscles, holding them tight for a few seconds, and then release. Start with your feet, working your way up to your scalp. As you release each muscle group, imagine stress, anxiety, and tension dissolving away, leaving you grounded and calm.
This step is essential for preparing yourself emotionally and energetically. By grounding your body, you create an open channel for healing energy to flow. Breathe deeply, and with each exhale, sink deeper into a state of relaxation. If you’re new to relaxation techniques, consider this guided meditation for letting go.
Step 3: Visualize for Closure and Release
Visualization is a powerful spiritual tool for closure. It allows you to see, feel, and release what’s weighing you down. In this step, you’ll use visualization to symbolically release your ex-partner and the relationship.
Close your eyes and begin by imagining your ex. Hold their image in your mind and visualize them finding happiness. It may be difficult at first, but this is key to your healing. Start with small details—imagine them smiling, thriving, and at peace.
Visualize them meeting someone new, someone who emotionally, spiritually, and mentally fulfills them. See them in a healthy, loving relationship with a partner who supports their dreams.
However, if you do not have an ex-partner or prefer not to focus on a specific person, you can still practice this exercise with another figure.
Visualize someone emotionally linked to you who may have been difficult in your life—perhaps someone who you feel didn’t deserve love, such as a difficult family member, a selfish colleague, or even a controversial public figure like a politician. Ideally, this person has stirred up feelings of resentment, bitterness, or frustration within you.
This exercise can be especially transformative with these individuals because it challenges you to reach the deepest levels of selfless love and release.
As you continue the visualization, imagine this person thriving, finding happiness, and achieving their heart’s desires. Whether it’s romantic, financial, or personal success, see them fulfilled, at peace, and surrounded by joy. Explore how visualization can aid in emotional and personal growth.
Done properly, this exercise needs only to be done once, but you may find it beneficial to repeat it as often as necessary.
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Step 4: Transform Your Emotions
The visualization exercise can bring up intense emotions—sadness, anger, or even relief. Allow these feelings to surface. Spiritual healing requires feeling everything fully before you can release it.
As you hold the image of your ex or the chosen person finding happiness, shift your perspective. Instead of focusing on what you’ve lost, transform your emotions into something positive. Imagine yourself giving them a gift—the gift of your best wishes for their future happiness. This act of selfless love is profoundly healing.
In wishing them joy, you release your attachment to the past and open your heart to new possibilities. You are no longer tethered to feelings of resentment or longing. Instead, you are choosing to embody unconditional love—one that transcends personal gain. This kind of love is the highest form of healing. As you send them love, feel your heart soften and your spirit lighten. You are freeing yourself.
This practice, when done correctly, should move you to tears.
Let those tears flow—feel them change from tears of anger, sadness, or bitterness to tears of genuine anticipation and happiness for someone else. This is the essence of selfless love, pure and free from backhanded well-wishes or resentment. Learn more about selfless love and its role in healing here.
Step 5: Align with Your Values and Future Vision
Once you’ve released the past, it’s time to refocus on yourself and your future. Every relationship we experience acts as a mirror, reflecting back to us our values, desires, and areas for growth. Now that you’ve let go of your attachment, take some time to reflect on the values that truly matter to you in a partner.
Write down a list of qualities you seek in a future relationship.
Focus not on superficial traits but on deeper, spiritual values—kindness, emotional depth, honesty, shared passions. This list is not a wish for someone else; it’s a reflection of the values you are striving to align with in yourself.
As you clarify your values, you energetically align with a future partner who embodies those traits.
This spiritual exercise is about tuning into the higher vibrations of love, attracting someone who resonates with your authentic self.
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Fold this list and put it away somewhere out of mind, perhaps in an envelope with a heart on it as a reminder of the love you are calling into your life.
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Step 6: Symbolically Release the Past
When you’re ready, blow out the candle. As the flame extinguishes, symbolically release your attachment to your ex-partner or the person you visualized.
You’ve done the work of sending them love, visualizing their happiness, and clearing space for your own growth. This simple act marks the end of one chapter and the beginning of another.
Place the folded list of your values somewhere safe, as a sacred reminder of the future you are manifesting. You’ve aligned yourself with the love you deserve, and now you’re ready to welcome it when the time is right.
Conclusion: Reclaiming Your Power and Opening to New Love
Breakups often leave us feeling powerless, discarded, or unworthy, but this exercise reminds you that your true power lies within. You are not defined by someone else’s absence.
Through this spiritual process, you’ve reclaimed your strength, transformed your pain into love, and realigned with your highest self.
The beauty of true love is its selflessness—wanting the best for someone, even when it no longer includes us.
By completing this exercise, you’ve made space for new love, new beginnings, and a deeper connection to your own heart.
Remember, healing is a journey. Feel every emotion as it arises, release every tear, and trust that by sending love out into the universe, you are inviting love back into your life in its highest form.
